A wedding toast is a daunting task for most people.
Even guys with self-confidence to spare and experience in public speaking, get nervous when faced with the task of speaking at a wedding. This is a day that the bride and groom (and their closest relatives) will remember for the rest of their lives – and you are playing a big part in that day.
Therefor it’s completely understandable to be nervous about it – most people would be. But if you prepare a good speech that you feel comfortable with it should take some of the pressure off – and maybe even leave some room for you to have a good time at the wedding!
So how do you make sure yours is one of those speeches that will be remembered?
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You have the best man speech all planned. There’s a good mix of jokes and a serious side to congratulate your best friend and his new wife. Now, you’ve just got to say the words. This is often the problem. The nerves are setting in: what if you forget your speech, you start crying or if you just can’t read the first line?
Keeping those nerves at bay is possible. It doesn’t matter what type of person you are, here are a few tips to help.
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If you are really stuck and in desperate need of speech-writing assistance, you’ll find a lifesaver here. A best man speech template that you can freely customize and use as your own material. Print it out, fill in the blanks, and you’ll be good to go!
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You have written your awesome best man speech and practiced it well. Now it’s showtime! The big day is here and soon all eyes will be on you.
Let’s start with what you should have done in advance though. Then we’ll give some pointers on how to act leading up to and during the speech.
FULL SPEECH PRINT-OUT, NOTE CARDS OR MEMORIZATION?
This is completely up to you, but my personal recommendation is to have a cheat sheet. If you think you can avoid reading like a machine from the paper, it’s good to have the full speech in front of you.
Note cards are great as long as you know the speech well enough to tie your cues together in a nice flowing way. If you can memorize the whole speech, well done – but remember that nerves can play a part in making you unsure when the lights are on.
Personally I had the whole thing written on small cue cards that I glanced at every once in a while. It’s always good to have a safety net.
Continue reading to learn how to act in the wedding